Recently there have been national headlines about a member of Congress accused of domestic violence. I am not going to mention his name or party because I don’t want to have this post perceived as a political post. It’s not. Domestic violence is not a political issue or at least it should not be. It’s a serious moral and legal issue.
The allegations made are serious. The accused man’s father-in-law is also a member of Congress, different branch and same party. He moved his daughter and his granddaughter to a different state and is hiding their location from the accused man. The accused man most recently appeared for a rather lengthy interview and he did not come across well. The allegations on him are not the first but are among many. This young man does appear to have a history of violent behavior in his past, and his wife is not the first woman to accuse him of violence.
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John E. Manzo is a retired United Church of Christ pastor and adjunct professor at Ivy Tech Community College. He is the author of the book “How Empathy Changes Everything,” that will be released on Sept. 25. He can be reached at jemanzo324@gmail.com.
